In this week's halaqa Sh Faraz mentioned a beautiful analogy. He said Nasiha (sincere concern/advice) in the context of people is a sensitive matter. We have to be careful how you do it. He compared it to trying to stitch a button onto a shirt someone is wearing . Our ultimate goal of stitching a button is noble but the way we do it could leave a person hurt ( our needle could pinch them, etc if we dont do it carefully).Din adds: We may even need training from good "stichers" on how to stitch a button. We may need to to do it in a place where the person does not feel embarrassed. We may need to give them a "heads up". We need to use the right button. We need to stitch it properly so it doesn't look bad after the button is done. There may be someone else who is more suitable to stitch that button (than you), because the button or the person stitched on requires special care. And after we do it, we attribute the act of stitching the button as something Allah gave us tawfiq to do, not something "I" did because "I" am so "cool", so "good".
So in other words, we need to be careful with how we go about adivising people.
1 comment:
As-salaamu'alaykum wa Rahmatu Llahi wa Barakatuhu,
Love the post!
I've always liked that Shaykh Faraz uses a lot of analogies/examples in his lectures.. it helps remember and understand things better.. and I really like the way this one is used.
Jazak'Allahu khair for sharing, very much appreciated.
Wa'alaykum as-salaam
Farhana
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