Reasons for Bad opinions

REASONS FOR BAD OPINIONS

by Hammad Din

A.Third person

1) You don't know the person at all. Basically this is not your opinion but someone else's opinion, (who) may have known the person for a long time or might just have met him. In a lot of cases this view can be biased since you trust your friend's opinion on this and you don't know what might have gone on between the friend and the person. It's good to investigate why your friend has the opinion he/she has and also to question him/her on it.

2) You know the person for some time. However your friend tells you of something the person does or did/does or said/says. You form a bad a negative opinion. However bias can play a role and it is good to investigate. You can even ask the person without naming your friend if
what was said about him/her was true.

B.Jealousy

1) The person has some material thing that you crave for as well i.e. car, PC, etc. If he /she shows it off to people and gets attention…you might get jealous. The person might not be showing off but your jealousy makes even his/her normal actions (about his possession) bad
to you.

2) It might related to a person of the opposite gender getting attention from whom you like( or even admire). You want that attention diverted towards you and that is the basis of your bad opinion of your competitor. Again he might just being himself/herself.

3) Similar to previous one. The only difference is that the person whom who admire or whose attention you want is of the same gender. It could be seeking attention from an elder ( in a child's case), someone in power, even a good friend(!), etc

4) The person is more popular than you. You want to have as big a social circle as he' she does. It may be a good competition if the person is popular because of his good character. However specially in teens it just could be hollow popularity!

5) Person has power that you crave because of its prestige. It may be at work or could be in school in a student organization, etc, etc

6) He/She has a skill which you don't. (I.e. may be in sports,studies, etc). You try to pick out bad qualities on the person and form a bad opinion about the person

C.Actions

1) You get to know of something the person has said behind your back or has acted in a way that really hurts you. This can be more traumatic if you had a very good opinion of the person before. You can sometimes tell habitual backbiters who will say bad stuff to you about other people when you are not around and say bad stuff about others when they are not around!

2) The person says bad mouths you in front of other people or even alone. Some times the person might not even move his tongue to show you that you are not liked by him. So your reason for not liking the person maybe simply the fact he/she doesn't like you!

3) You have done a lot for the person but he never appreciates what you do and expects even more without giving anything or saying a simple thank you.

4) First time you meet the person. However based on your past experiences, you don't get a good vibe even if the person gives you his/her best behavior. Some times you may be right on your judgment and at other times horribly wrong

5) Nobody's perfect and the person may have imperfections which are very obvious.

6) You are in a bad mood yourself. The person acts normal but you interpret that to be a bad behavior just because you are being pessimistic about everything/every one.


End Note: These are a few reasons why you could form a bad opinion about some one. There probably are more. However I think I have covered most areas. Just remember no matter what your opinion about a person is you should be flexible with it because people change. For example, you probably aren't the same person you were 2 years ago!