For those who have experienced watching Black and White TV know that color on TV makes the image much closer to reality.
Just like that in our own lives, treating people and situations in different colors makes it easier and better for everyone involved. The problem is that life isnt simple. Life is not always like math, where if its not A, it has to B. Its not that someone can only be totally good or totally bad. The irony of this is that we like to be judged as per our own realities ( in color) but like to simplify our judgments when it comes to other people are around us ( black or white?).
We see the colors we look for in another. If you look for black and white, you will find those ,but if you look for other colors you will see those in others. The colors you see might not be perfect but who said everyone has to perfect. Plus perfection is subjective. Sometimes we build our images of what good is ,or, that good is supposed to be how we are and anything different is bad.
I think its the nature of society today that we are so busy with ourselves that we don't always have time to judge others properly. What may make the problem worse is that we don't admit that we don't know enough about a person ( or the situation) to form a proper opinion.
Last but not least we should see and seek good in others around us. If you look for good in a person, you will find it. If you look or bad in a person, you will find it. It is pertinent that we focus on the good and always start with the good( even if you criticize someone).
The strength of Prophet Muhammad ( peace and blessings be upon him) was exactly in this. He always saw good in the people around him and we can see the affect he had on the sahaba (may Allah be pleased with them). He was a mercy to mankind and we should have mercy towards those around us.I will end with his ( peace and blessings be upon him) words:
635. 'A'isha reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Whenever kindness is in a thing it adorns it, and whenever it is removed from anything, it disfigures it." [Muslim]
2 comments:
assalamou alaikum brother hammad,
this is another in a series of very well composed thoughts by you. please continue in the same spirit :)
i wondered about your following observations:
"I think its the nature of society today that we are so busy with ourselves that we don't always have time to judge others properly. What may make the problem worse is that we don't admit that we don't know enough about a person ( or the situation) to form a proper opinion."
in fact my experience is quite the opposite. i find the nature of society is such that we spend all our time judging others so that we have no time to appraise our own self. if anything i think we have too much information about other people. perhaps we have so much information that it becomes impossible to cull out the essential from the mundane.
are we living in completely different worlds?
Khany Motay.
I agree that we may spend too much time judging others.....And as you point out we usually have the wrong information often tainted by our own biases and assumptions....
Also I think Iam not only pointing to close friends but also to people we might not know too well....
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